Dear Sensitive Soul,

So much has happened around here since my last e-zine. I'm smitten with our new kitten, Mina, a wayward soul who seems to have handpicked us for her own. And thanks to an unusual approach for introducing new kittens by pet therapist Carole C. Wilbourn, we're all getting along famously. (If you're interested, here's where you can buy her article.)

On the sensitivity front, I enjoyed teaching my "Energy Skills For Sensitive Souls" class so much at Elephant Pharmacy in September that I've decided to offer it as a TeleClass. Go to my website here to sign up or for more details. I'd love to have you join me.

This month's e-zine topic focuses on anger and the wisdom it can bring into our lives. This includes a feature article, "Anger Can Be Your Friend," and an Ask Jenna column on dealing with anger over global injustice. I've included a new tidbit, called "The Spaces Between Moments," that I hope you'll enjoy.

I'm also pleased to announce that I have a new online assessment called "Is Your Sensitivity Working For You?" Go to my website here to take it online. And last but not least, I've got a new e-mail subscription for my blog. When you sign up, you'll be notified by e-mail when I post new blog entries. Go here to sign up.

Warmly,
Jenna

Feature Article
Anger Can Be Your Friend

Anger is an uncomfortable emotion that sometimes we wish we could skip. Instead, I teach my clients to find the wisdom in their anger.

1. Anger lets you know when your boundaries have been violated.
Karla McLaren, in her book, "Emotional Genius," describes anger as an "honorable sentry." Anger is a fantastic "red flag" warning system that alerts you when someone crosses the line — by making inappropriate requests or by invading your personal space, for example. It is also an announcement that you may have violated your own boundaries, perhaps by saying yes to things that you don't really want to do. Usually this shows up as one of anger's companions — resentfulness, crabbiness, crankiness, or frustration. Then you'll know you've gone too far.

2. Anger is the energy of personal power.
The energy of anger and the energy of personal power are similar. In the Enneagram, a personality system that I admire, the Eight is the type that's in touch with their anger. Eights will tell you that anger is their fuel -- it's what spurs them to accomplish their goals. It is their energy of determination. You can learn to harness this power by using it appropriately to stand up for yourself, to reestablish your boundaries, and to say no. Anger can be the energy of self-respect when you use it this way.

3. Anger is a catalyst for change.
As sentry and as power, anger urges you to make necessary and sometimes difficult changes in your life. It gives you the fortitude to effect change and to weather it. It gives you the strength to say no, to put your foot down, and to gather your inner resources in a burst of empowered action and determination that creates a new experience.

So when you experience anger, look for ways to tap into its energy rather than repressing it. Allow it to guide you, teach you, and inspire you.

On My Nightstand
Recent Reads

The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them, by Elaine Aron. (Finally reading this one through — excellent insights into my own childhood as a sensitive soul. I highly recommend this book for all sensitive people, parents or not. You will learn a lot about how to "parent" yourself now.)

The Truth Will Set You Free: Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self, by Alice Miller. (This book really blew my mind with it's explanation of the impacts of parenting methods on personal integrity and emotional health.)

The Secret of the Shadow: The Power of Owning Your Whole Story, by Debbie Ford. (An interesting look at integrating the light and dark — one of my favorite topics.)

The Body Ecology Diet: Recovering Your Health & Rebuilding Your Immunity, by Donna Gates (This diet has helped me almost completely resolve chronic acid reflux problems.)

On the Blog

Ask Jenna: How do we handle the tragedy that has befallen the Gulf Coast region?
Are you feeling it too?
Highly Sensitive Spirituality

The Spaces Between Moments

I describe moments that take my breath away as the "spaces between moments" — instances where it feels like time stops and life’s beauty takes over. As a sensitive soul, you may know what I'm talking about. What creates those moments for you? Here are some of my latest delicious moments:

  • The scent of flowering jasmine on a warm summer night.
  • Dancing to a slow Cajun waltz with my sweetheart.
  • Lingering outside at the table on a late mountain evening, as warm breezes offset the cool air.
  • Watching the excellent finger-style guitar work of the Waybacks' lead guitarist.
  • Reading a great book in a comfy chair on a weekday afternoon, while eating popcorn.
  • Watching a captivating film, like "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory" or "Contact."
  • Seeing into someone's heart and soul through their eyes.

What does it for you? I'd love to hear from you on the blog, here.

Ask Jenna
How can I cope with anger at global injustices?

On the other side of the anger coin, I've seen bumper stickers that say, "If you're not outraged, you're not paying attention." One reader wrote recently to inquire about how to cope with the anger she feels when seeing the injustices in world. She wants to be more accepting, but feels that her sensibilities are continually assaulted. Here are my thoughts on this good question:

1. Take a spiritual step back.
I experience the world's challenges as opportunities for us to grow as a species. It can be ugly and distressing to see what is happening around us. And yet, from a soul-based perspective, perhaps this era is exactly what we need to experience to transform our culture into something greater.

2. Protect yourself.
For some, regularly experiencing television and news about the world's tragedies is simply too much. As sensitive beings, we can choose to protect ourselves from feeling assaulted by such information. Take a break; turn off the news, radio, and TV; and rest up. Your anger may be letting you know that enough is enough, at least for now. I look at it this way: Does it serve the world in a positive way to be rendered immobile by tragedy?

3. Put your anger into action.
Rather than focusing on injustices and your frustration, put your energy to work. I've always loved the phrase, "think globally, act locally." Being angry, as I mentioned, can be a powerful catalyst. Recognize the underlying drive -- a desire for change and a deep caring for the world. Get involved in moving the world in a positive direction, regardless of how small the task. Each of us has the power to create a positive experience, whether through work or our personal lives. We can volunteer, we can create art, or we can choose to act from love. Use your personal energy wisely, and for good.

I hope this is helpful.

 

The Art of
Sensitive Living
October 2005 Contents

feature article

on my nightstand

on the blog

the spaces
between moments

ask Jenna

upcoming events

web site resources

 

 

 

 

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A Call for Assistance

What would you LOVE to see written about in this e-zine? What are your burning questions and curiosities? Your feedback is welcome and desired. Please e-mail me your thoughts or ideas for future issues. Please be advised that I will be unable to answer your questions directly, though you may request an e-mail consultation if you're interested.

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