Dear Sensitive Soul,

November is here. I can hardly believe how the year has flown by. Our wedding plans are rapidly unfolding. I asked for divine assistance to quickly and easily find the right dress. Lucky for me, I was assisted: I found my dress in unprecedented time, one that was on sale and fits perfectly! As a sensitive soul, just thinking about shopping makes me tired. I went to one store to do some reconnaissance, spent that evening picking out dresses online, and the next day, voila. I found one of my top-choice dresses and went home with it, no alterations required. As an added bonus, it was the one my fiancé liked best, too. I'll be calling on divine support throughout the wedding planning process.

This month, I'm teaching my Holiday Strategies for Sensitive Souls class. Please join me in preparing to welcome the holidays with grace, ease, and calm.

This month's e-zine article is called "Overcoming Overwhelm." Between buying a new house, moving, getting engaged, and facing the holidays, I am taking my overstimulation coping strategies to a new level of mastery. I invite you to join me.


Feature Article
Overcoming Overwhelm

As a sensitive soul, it's easy to get overstimulated.

With stimulation all around, it's not surprising. Our urgency-addicted culture and mainstream work ethic is overstimulating. Sound bites, billboards, spam, and constant advertisements surround us. Other people's energy and emotions affect us. Too much light, noise, color, texture, or odor will quickly send us into overdrive. Sometimes we can get overstimulated from sugary foods, alcohol, or caffeine. On top of all of this, our own negative internal dialogues can overstimulate as well.

On the other hand, positive excitement can also be overstimulating. Getting engaged was a huge reminder of this for me. The night after the proposal, I simply could not get to sleep with all the excitement. My mind was spinning. So, overstimulation can also come from good things, too -- like interests, passions, or excitement.

Every person has a threshold when it comes to stimulation. Even non-HSPs get overstimulated. Sensitive souls simply have a lower threshold for stimulation, taking us into overwhelm more quickly than others. The downside to overstimulation is that when it is a constant way of life, it takes a toll on our health and wellbeing. I believe that many sensitive souls are anxious and depressed as a result of chronic overstimulation and resulting exhaustion.

Being under-stimulated is no piece of cake either. The discomfort of boredom is particularly familiar to sensation-seeking sensitive souls. Ultimately, we each need to find our own optimal level of stimulation.

Here's what I'm doing and what I teach my clients to manage stimulation:

* Pay attention to your very FIRST clues when you get overstimulated. Early detection is the key.

* Learn to monitor your stimulation level on a regular basis, so you can make course corrections as needed. I like to use a 0 to 10 scale, where my ideal level of stimulation is a 4 or 5.

* Make course corrections. Throttle-back, slow down, and take breaks to stop the madness. Do something for yourself to bring you back to center. I like to paint my toenails or clean my kitchen sink. Taking three deep breaths with my eyes closed also helps tremendously. My other favorite: hopping in bed in the middle of the day for a few minutes.

* Use your imagination and intuition to envision your day, your week, and your month. Your inner guidance will let you know what's too much. Then, adjust as needed. When I see too many items on my calendar for the week, I cancel plans or invite the Universe to help "dematerialize" a few things for me.

* Leave. Sometimes the most powerful solution is to walk away. If you're in an overstimulating situation, leaving may be the most effective way to take care of yourself in the moment, even if you come back later. Many sensitives can attest to the power of a brief restroom break when attending a social event. Perhaps that's why it's called a rest room.

* Use energy skills, meditation, and exercise to discharge excess energy. Simple ways to clear away what's too much can offer quick relief.

* Build your energy reserves through self-care, so you are more resilient when the unexpected comes up. Eat well, exercise, sleep well, and drink water. These are the basics. Then, when overstimulating situations come up, you'll be better prepared.

* Create a tool kit to help manage overstimulation. Try Rescue Remedy, Rescue Sleep, Calms Forte, still-point inducers, lavender essential oil, Epsom salts, meditation or visualization CDs, and soothing music. These are the things you might consider stocking up on. I have a set for both home and travel.

* Clear your mind. Learn techniques to quiet your mind, especially when your inner dialogue starts spinning out of control. Do stream-of-consciousness writing about what's troubling you, and then burn it to let it go. Ring bells or singing bowls to invoke the element of air to clear your mind. Flower essences can help, too.

* Use consciousness as a resource. Be mindful about working at a proper pace, slowing down when you eat, remembering to breathe, and not rushing through your life. The time to live is now.


Copyright 2006, Jennifer K. Avery

For more articles like this one, see Jenna's Articles or her E-zine Archives online.

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The Art of
Sensitive Living
November 2006 Contents

Upcoming Events

Advanced Energy Skills for Sensitive Souls
Thursday, November 2
4:30 to 6 p.m. PST

Energy Skills
TeleClass Series

Are You Highly Sensitive?
Special Two-Part Class & Discussion Group

Monday, November 6 & 20 7 to 9 p.m. PST
Unity Center of Walnut Creek
1871 Geary Road, Walnut Creek, Calif.
Location questions: Shari Dyer, 925.939.5425

Holiday Strategies for Sensitive Souls
Monday, November 13
1 p.m. PST

Elephant Pharmacy
1607 Shattuck Avenue, Berkeley, California
Introductory In-Person Class, F.r.e.e.

Holiday Strategies for Sensitive Souls
Thursday, November 16
4:30 to 6 p.m. PST

TeleClass: $45

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Recommended Events for Sensitive Souls

In addition to my own classes, (see above) I highly recommend the following wonderful events:

Sonia Choquette on Tour:
Wake Up Your Spirit and Connect to Your Guides

If you've never had the chance to see Sonia Choquette in person, I recommend the experience. She is one of my greatest teachers and mentors. I will be at her December event in San Francisco, hosting a table for people interested in participating locally in Six Sensory San Francisco, a group dedicated to raising our vibration and living a six-sensory life.

Here are the dates for Sonia's tour:
Nov. 5, Los Angeles, California
Nov. 18, Seattle, Washington
Dec. 3, San Francisco, California
Dec. 9, New York City, New York

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I am now accepting brief announcements for products or services related to supporting highly sensitive souls in living happy, healthy and highly sensitive lives. There is a small fee. Find out more here.

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