Dear Sensitive Soul,
to 2005! Do you feel the energy of the new year inspiring you
make the changes you’ve had in mind?
If you’re anything like me, you’re focusing your attention
on what’s truly important to you in the coming year. You’re
ready to get going.
you’re ready to start working with your sensitivity instead
of against it, I’m currently offering the first phase of
my powerful Embrace Your Essential Self program for a
30% discount for those who sign up by January 31. This is a once-only
Why use the program?
a sensitive soul, you may not trust yourself, your instincts,
or your sensitivity
others don’t see and don’t
validate what is obvious to you. You’ve probably learned
to think there
is something wrong with you for being
sensitive. It means you may withdraw, feel flawed, or despair of
a powerful contribution to the world. Actually, being sensitive
is a gift! When know who you REALLY are and trust your sensitivity,
if someone questions your insight or experience, you’ll shrug
them off, because you know, without a doubt, that you are right
on. The Embrace
Your Essential Self program is a powerful, life-transforming
program that aligns you with a deep sense of inner rightness with
yourself and your sensitivity, so you can truly step forward and
To sign up, please call me at 510.528.1696 to schedule a free
consultation and see if the program is right for you.
In the meantime,
enjoy this month’s article and tips for
sensitive souls, “Building Energy Reserves” and “Where’s
Your Overstimulation Edge?” I’d also love to have your
thoughts about a new title for the e-zine. The winner will
receive a free coaching session with me. And last, the TeleGathering
has a new time. For the next few months, I’ll be alternating
its time slots to see how that works for participation.
Building Energy Reserves
new subscriber and highly sensitive “newbie” recently asked
if her sensitivity would require her to retreat to the mountains to avoid
overstimulation. I told her the answer to her question depended on her
individual circumstances and sensitivities. We discussed the possibility
that she may need to temporarily “retreat” to recharge her
extremely overloaded and sensitive nervous system.
my work, I’ve found that a sensitive soul’s
state of well-being and inner peace depend, in part, on the balance
they strike between being “in” and “out” in
the world (along with other factors like self-esteem and self-reliance).
As sensitive souls, when we learn to honor our sensitivity by
listening to its wisdom rather than struggling against it, we
are able to engage more fully with the experiences we do choose
to participate in. Ultimately, we feel more satisfied.
also observed that the process is more than a question of striking
an equal balance, but rather a proper one.
In fact, it is about building and replenishing energy reserves.
sensitive souls, one day’s activity – depending on
its content – may require two days of prior preparation
and one day of rest afterward. So taking on a “big event,” like
speaking in public or attending a function with a large crowd,
may actually require a significant investment in your energy
How can you build your energy reserves?
For sensitive souls, self-care is an important way to build,
maintain, and replenish energy. It is also a requirement for
sensitive souls. Without great self-care, we whither like flowers
left too long on the vine. What self-care looks like must be
tailored to you specifically. But here are some initial thoughts:
plenty of sleep, down time, and alone time.
healthy, whole, nourishing foods and drink plenty of water.
your spiritual life, such as through meditation or time
joyful and spiritual exercise like yoga, dancing, or walking
others to support you, such as getting regular massages or
regular Epsom salts baths.
time to engage your creative nature and play. What’s
fun for you?
and create supportive surroundings for your work, home, and
willing, ready, and able to say “no” to
what doesn’t support you.
kind to yourself and your sensitive soul.
As sensitive souls, when we practice self-care, we can maintain
and recharge our energy. Then, we can put our sensitivity to
work on our own behalf and share the wisdom, beauty, and depth
we have to offer the world.
does great self-care look like for you?*
Is this an HSP thing?
I wondered whether you could shed some light on something that
I’ve experienced since childhood. Sometimes I
wake up every hour or so throughout the night with very tense
and feeling “strung
out.” I relax and calm myself, going back
to sleep, only for it to happen again and again.
Is this a result of being overstimulated? Do you have any suggestions
for avoiding or short-circuiting the process? I've been using
point inducer regularly, but I’m fairly stressed and
tired while caring for my elderly mother who has cancer. There
are plenty of opportunities for overload!
I'd be grateful for any light you can shed.
I've had VERY similar experiences:
I am overstimulated from stressful (or exciting) experiences.
I am traveling and trying to sleep in a new environment.
I have had sugar, caffeine, or alcohol close to bedtime – or
I'm worrying about something.
I’m too cold.
I’m getting sick.
do different things depending on the situation. But one thing
helps me is listening to Centerpointe’s
Holosync CDs, or Emmett Miller’s “Letting
Go of Stress” guided
I always travel with my CD player now. And when I'm at home I always
have it next to my bed, so if I wake up I can put it on easily
and listen until I fall back asleep.
If I'm worrying, feeling overstimulated, or traveling, I usually
find that this works well, particularly in combination with the
other things I do for the specific circumstances (like asking
for extra blankets while I’m traveling so their weight
on my bed is "right"). I’m not always able to
remedy the diet stuff with the CDs. But I always know I can choose
again the next day.
It sounds like you have some pretty good reasons to be stressed
out. If I were in your shoes I might also try:
salts baths with rose, lavender, or chamomile essential oils
before bedtime (not too hot)
Essences, especially Rescue Remedy, and those for caregivers
- Gardening – when
- Meditation & visualization – such as grounding
and clearing techniques
also wonder if you just need to “get out.” I had
a “hit” that your soul is restless
and wakes up at night when it has a chance! Maybe
it’s time for a vacation
from your situation, even if it’s a little
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Where’s Your Overstimulation Edge?
As a Highly Sensitive Soul, you
are more prone to overstimulation than others, especially in
our fast-paced world. A valuable skill in your sensitivity toolkit
is to know and recognize as early as possible when you begin
become overwhelmed. That way, you can take responsibility for
getting what you need to bring yourself back into balance quickly.
be useful to notice the overwhelmed feeling before it’s
~ Pay Attention ~
How do you first notice when you are getting overwhelmed? What’s
your edge? How can you tell when it’s coming? Here are
some clues you might look for:
body tense up?
breathing become shallow?
mind start to race?
Do you find
your attention difficult to focus?
Do you find
yourself shutting down?
Do you start
to feel a little tired, or even a little irritable
Do you start
to feel like you're vibrating too fast? Buzzing?
Does it feel
like things are starting to move too fast?
And when you notice these things, stop! Take a moment to breathe,
and reassess your situation. You have the power to change your
experience at any time. I highly recommend that sensitive souls
energy skills and self-calming techniques so you can address
overstimulation right away.
~ Plan Ahead ~
One of the techniques that I recommend to clients to proactively
address overstimulation is to use your intuitive and imaginative
skills to explore your options for upcoming situations and
to see what feels “right.” I liken it to trying
on clothes and seeing what fits best. That way, you can even
begin to feel out your “edge” in advance, and see
what might help moderate potential stimulation for you.
For example, I’ve learned that when I’m attending
events with a group, I can “try on” the different
ways of arriving, whether on my own or with my partner, or by
traveling with the group. I usually like to play out the whole
scenario and suss out the feeling of the entire event. Then I
can decide in advance what will work best for me. On the other
hand, when my energy reserves are strong (see “On Transformation,”)
it can sometimes be fun to just go with the experience and see
what comes up!
your overstimulation edge?**
A Call for Assistance
What would you LOVE to see written about in this e-zine?
What are your burning questions and curiosities? Your feedback
is welcome, and desired! Please email me your thoughts or ideas
for future issues.