Dear Sensitive Soul,

April is here, and summer adventures are beginning to call on me to plan them. I thought you might enjoy seeing another picture of our kitten, Millie, who’s now about six months old. She has spring fever! As you can see, she brings me pure joy.

Last month we had a great talk at the TeleGathering about how our sensitivity guides us. A number of powerful insights were shared about what it means to trust our sensitivity. See this month’s feature article for more.

And, if you're in the Berkeley area, please consider joining my new Walking Group for Sensitive Souls. It’s a great way to get some grounding and invigorating exercise while bonding with like-minded souls. Sign up on my website to join the fun. Starts Monday, April 4!

As always, my attention is focused on living a happy, healthy, and highly sensitive lifestyle. And with Earth Day festivals coming up, I thought it might be apropos to consider “green living” and how it can support us as sensitive souls. To that end, I’ve included a number of resources that I’ve been exploring lately to help me make ecologically friendly choices that will reduce the chemical impacts on my sensitive nervous system. As part of that effort and my interest in cooking whole, fresh, and natural foods, I’ve also included my favorite breakfast recipe for soaked muesli. It’s truly a warming and filling breakfast that helps me start the day feeling solid and grounded. I hope you enjoy it!


Feature Article
Trusting Your Sensitivity

As a sensitive person, you are equipped with a finely tuned radar, feedback, and guidance system – your sensitive nervous system and energy field. Your sensitivity is always there, like a good friend, letting you know what will work for you and what won’t. It also provides you with information beyond what’s immediately evident, through intuition. Trusting this information is a profound way to start coming back into alignment with yourself and the gifts of being highly sensitive.

~ What Guidance Looks Like ~
Guidance comes in many forms, from practical to spiritual, and from the immediate to the long term. It comes emotionally, empathically, intellectually, intuitively, psychically, and physically. As a sensitive soul, your well -being will benefit when you learn to trust this input.

For example, you may have received both a strong Yes and a strong No from your feedback system. With a strong Yes, you might feel excited, invigorated, curious, intrigued, or delighted. With a strong No, you might feel your energy level plummet, your heart sink, a sense of discomfort or unease, or you might feel tense, tired, worried, stressed, overwhelmed, or exhausted. With these feelings, you can learn to recognize your No responses.

It can be challenging to stay true to this guidance, however, whether it’s a yes or no. There are often influences trying to override your inner knowing, like your ego’s fears about money when you know it’s time to leave a soul-draining job, or your family’s protests when you say “no” to yet another social obligation, or the insidious internal “shoulds” that tell you that you’ll miss out on something or let someone down. But not honoring this guidance is a form of self-betrayal and ultimately is a strain on your body, mind, heart, and soul.

~ When It’s Hard to Discern ~
Sometimes it’s hard to get a clear sense of guidance on certain issues. When that happens, it will help to give yourself some time. Things we are attached to, or have an emotional charge about, are particularly hard to resolve intuitively because our minds and egos take over. To the extent that you can, let it go. Insights come in flashes and waves at the right moments, in the right time. This is part of learning to trust.

~ Lessons in Self-Care ~
You might also consider that your emotional responses can take the form of guidance about what you need in the moment. I’ve learned to recognize that when I feel cranky, crabby, grumpy, or resentful, it’s a clear sign that I’ve been over-giving, overdoing, or picking up on too much from someone else. That’s when I know it’s time to rest, rejuvenate, or revise my current plans. I’ve never been so quick to hop into a bath of Epsom salts as I am when my emotions tell me to rest.

Although many of us struggle with taking proper care of ourselves, consider this thought from Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way. She says: “Afraid to appear selfish, we lose our self.” So often, we think that we don’t deserve it or something else needs to come first. But I find that when you work with your sensitivity, by honoring what it’s asking you for rather than trying to disregard or work against it, taking care of others or our work gets easier and more joyful.

~ Developing Your Sensitivity ~
When I talk about my coaching program, Embrace Your Essential Self, I usually mention developing our sensitivity. Last year when I mentioned this in a talk, a participant asked, “You mean you want us to be MORE sensitive?” In a way, the answer IS yes, though not in the way you might think. This doesn’t mean allowing yourself to get more overstimulated, more stressed, or more exposed. What it does mean is taking time to stop and pay attention to the guidance that your sensitivity is bringing into your life. You’ll be glad you did.

** How are you trusting your sensitivity? **

Embrace Your Essential Self

Embracing Your Essential Self means tuning into who you really are, what you really want, and what you really need. When you become a client in my coaching program, a major focus of our work is helping you know yourself more deeply and coming to trust the power of your sensitivity and all the gifts it brings into your life.

Here’s what a current client has to say about the program:

"For the first time in my life, I felt safe enough to expose who I am to someone else. And then on top of that, I did not feel apologetic. I have more courage to expose myself to others. I have, for the first time, a feeling of acceptance of myself as a highly sensitive person. I found out in beautiful descriptive detail more about who I am and how it all flows together to give my life integration and meaning."  – M.L. of Nipomo, California

If you’re ready to find a deep sense of inner rightness and acceptance of yourself and your sensitivity, call me at 510.528.1696 to schedule a complimentary half-hour phone consultation. I currently have only limited space available in my coaching practice, so if you’re interested in exploring the program and what it might do for you, call to reserve your space.

Great Grounding Recipes

In striving to develop a healthy, whole, fresh, organic, and natural diet, I’ve come across some great recipes. I plan to share them with you periodically. One favorite is this recipe for soaked muesli, which leaves me feeling grounded and satisfied. This recipe, with minor modifications by yours truly, comes from Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon.

Soaked Muesli
1 cup organic oatmeal (not quick cooking)
½ cup organic amaranth seeds
¼ cup dried unsweetened shredded coconut
¼ cup sliced or slivered almonds
½ tsp powdered cinnamon
2 Tbs organic yogurt
2 cups warm filtered water

1 cup filtered water
½ tsp sea salt
1 Tbs flax meal

Put all the ingredients in a large bowl to soak overnight in a warm place – about 65 to 75 degrees. I put the bowl in a cooler along with two jars full of warm water to raise the temperature slightly.

In the morning, bring one cup of water to a boil with ½ tsp sea salt. Add the soaked muesli and a handful of raisins and cook to desired consistency – about 3 to 5 minutes. Remove from heat and stir in flax meal.

Serve with a dab of organic butter and a little raw honey. Yum!

The leftovers make great “pancakes” when mixed with an egg and pan cooked.


Sensitive Living
April 2005

feature article

embrace your
essential self

great grounding recipes

upcoming events

web site resources

tips for
sensitive souls

still point inducers available now

call for input


Upcoming Events

Monday, April 4
4:30 p.m. PDT
Berkeley Sensitive Souls Walking Group
The Berkeley Walking Group for Sensitive Souls starts this Monday. Please join us! There will not be a fee for participation – this is just for fun, exercise, connection, and nature.


Thursday, April 21
4 p.m. PDT

TeleGathering for Sensitive Souls
A free gathering with like-minded souls. Third Thursdays of the month. Sign up for details and announcements.


Thursday, May 19
11 a.m. PDT

TeleGathering for Sensitive Souls



Web Site Resources

The Embrace Your Essential Self Program

Other Services

Five-Star Products for Sensitive Souls



Calendar of Events

Centering for
Sensitive Souls




Tips for
Sensitive Souls
Earth-Friendly Living

Here are some resources for “Earth-Friendly Living” for sensitives. As a sensitive person, I am passionately interesting a living a life that is good for me as well as the planet. I thought you might enjoy exploring some of the resources I’ve found intriguing.
The things I find most interesting on this site are the articles and past newsletter issues with well-written, clear, and intriguing articles about healthy living. I have not purchased any of the products, so I can’t recommend those personally.
Skin Deep Report
This is a fascinating report from the Environmental Working Group that includes a safety assessment of ingredients in personal care products. I have used this guide (along with my intuition) to purchase products that hopefully have less of an impact on my sensitive nervous system. I found out about this resource through my favorite free circular, Common Ground.
This website offers a free and printable guide you can carry in your wallet to help you make smart choices about buying fish that’s caught or farmed in a sustainable, environmentally friendly way. The guide also includes indicators of EPA mercury advisories for specific fish. It’s great to have when standing at the fish counter!



Still Point Inducers
Now Available

If you've been eagerly awaiting a still point inducer, they are available now!  These are invaluable for calming an overloaded nervous system.


A Call for Input

What would you LOVE to see written about in this e-zine? What are your burning questions and curiosities? Your feedback is welcome and desired! Please e-mail me your thoughts or ideas for future issues.

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