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By Jenna Avery, CLC,
Life Coach for Sensitive Souls

If you’re highly sensitive, you may see your sensitivity as a limitation. As a client said once at the outset of coaching: “I see my sensitivity as a handicap, not as a gift.” You, too, may feel like being highly sensitive is a burden. But what I’ve seen is that when you work with your sensitivity instead of against it, your life flows easily, peacefully, and naturally.

My sensitivity is both a challenge and a gift, I believe, which ultimately makes it neutral. But here’s the clincher: So many of us have learned to see our sensitivity as a drawback, we have to focus our attention on what makes it a strength instead. We have years of negative programming to overcome!

If you’re curious about whether or not you might be a sensitive, take a look at my article “Are You Highly Sensitive?"

When we focus on what’s great about being highly sensitive, a number of key aspects emerge. As you read this article, allow yourself to consider the gifts that these traits bring into your life.

1. We are perceptive. Our sensitivity includes a natural inclination to absorb subtle information from a range of sources, from our environment and those around us. The details come through many channels, including: smelling, tasting, touching, seeing, hearing, intuiting, and sensing energy. Ultimately, we observe fine details in the physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual realms. This means we have a leg up on most people, who aren’t able to take in so much information.

2. We are intuitive. Sensitives have a strong ability to connect with sources of information and discern solutions beyond what is explicable through the intellect. In other words, sometimes we “just know.” This means we have powerful skills that make it possible for us to assist ourselves and others more efficiently and effectively. I love my intuitive ability to quickly arrive at answers and discover knowledge that I can’t access through analysis or reasoning. Our intuition can bring us great peace of mind if we learn to trust it.

3. We are creative, imaginative, or creatively attuned. We have the ability to tie together things that we see into complex and original concepts. This makes us visionaries or “priestly advisors,” according to Elaine Aron, author of The Highly Sensitive Person. Our artistic inclinations, along with our sensing abilities, allow us to make beautiful spaces and objects. We can get things “just right.” We also enjoy a rich experience of life. Like in the “Wizard of Oz,” when Dorothy comes out of the house in Munchkin Land, everything is in Technicolor! I’ll gladly take the “lions and tigers and bears” and the “oh my” to experience everything else that goes along with it.

4. We are empathic. As sensitives, we empathize with others. Sometimes we can even experience other people’s emotions as if they were our own, particularly when we have weak boundaries. When we tune into other people’s energy and emotional states, it’s easy for us to surmise what they need and want. This makes our relationships deeply authentic and caring. Ultimately, this means we are gifted in our ability to be of service to others.

5. We are passionate and intense. Because we are such passionate people, sensitives experience great beauty, great joy, and even great sorrow. In short, we experience life deeply. We are well equipped to go “deep sea diving” with ourselves and with others. This means that we are the friends people call in times of need.

6. We are soulful. Sensitives are usually attuned to the spiritual realm. This means we find it easier to live divinely guided lives. When we pay attention to ourselves and our spirituality, we easily discover our purpose and life plan. This also means we can graciously usher in the spiritual and sacred for those around us.

All of these traits, together, make us important members of society. Without us, our culture would experience significantly less art, beauty, tenderness, spirituality, passion, and peace. We bring so much healing to the world with our awareness, insight, and knowledge. In fact, we make great planners, strategists, trouble-shooters, healers, energy workers, visionaries, environmentalists, coaches, designers, feng shui practitioners, caregivers, animal experts, artists, musicians, writers, advisers, counselors, teachers, intuitives, psychics, sages, and prophets, etc. These are among many others!

Don’t get me wrong. Many of these traits come with challenges, too. But what I’ve seen is that when we learn the strategies and skills to deal with those challenges, we put our sensitivity to work – on our behalf as well as for the benefit of others. The only thing wrong with being sensitive is trying to pretend that you’re not.



Copyright 2004-2011, Jennifer Avery, All rights reserved.

Jenna Avery is a highly sensitive coach and intuitive who specializes in guiding sensitive souls to find a deep sense of inner rightness within themselves so they are inspired to step forward and shine. Jenna is a Certified Life Coach based in Berkeley, California. She can be reached at 510.984.3474. You’re invited to take her free online assessment: "Is Your Sensitivity Working For You?" on her website at

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